and psychotherapy
professionals
Latest issue:July 2010
Vol. 21
Issue 6
Latest issue:Welcome to Therapy Today online, for counsellors, psychotherapists and anyone interested in the therapy profession.
I was staggered when I realised recently that this is my 100th issue of Therapy Today. Some of the debates that were raging a decade ago, are still with us. For example, one of my first tasks when I began working for the journal was to write an article (a rather naïve one at that) about how regulation was sure to be in place by 2003 – at the very latest!
We have covered many topics in the past 100 issues but have not to my knowledge touched on the subject of sadomasochism. One study has reported that 14 per cent of men and 11 per cent of women have personal experience of sadomasochistic sex so the chances of someone walking into our consulting room who identifies as kinky are quite high.
Unless we have personal experience of the world of kink, we are unlikely to be confident to work with a client who discloses in therapy that they are exploring this aspect of their sexuality. Su Connan argues that offering therapy to those who identify as kinky raises questions for the therapeutic community such as those that have been raised by the gay community around the need for awareness, training, ethical practice and supervision. Clients need therapists who are not going to be shocked or make them feel judged or indeed who will categorise them as pathological or sexually deviant and in need of treatment and cure. In order to be able to offer ethical therapy to these clients, Su argues, practitioners need to deepen their own knowledge and understanding of the kink experience and of the meanings that sadomasochistic sex has for those who incorporate it into their lives.
The hunt is on for some new columnists as we say goodbye in this issue to our client Emma Munro who has shared her therapy journey with us for the last 18 months, and Martin Halifax who has reached the end of his counselling and psychotherapy diploma. If you know people who might fill either of these roles, please get in touch. [Please note, we have now filled these vacancies.]