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July 2010, Vol. 21 Issue 6


A kink in the process

"Sadomasochistic sex is arguably one of the least understood and most demonised forms of consensual sexuality. How able are we to offer ethical therapy to kinky clients when there is so little awareness of the kink experience?"

In training - Endings and beginnings

Life has aquainted me in the past with ends. I have torn enough pages off the calendar to have marked the passing of close relatives, to have waved goodbye to workplaces and work colleagues, to have shared dinner with them and thanked them for the mantel clock.

In practice - A pile of dead leaves

2 June Three hours between clients. The sun is shining and it’s a shame to be indoors. The tall front hedge needs trimming and even with my new extendable battery-powered hedge-trimmer it’s a job I don’t relish, fearing one day I’ll over-reach and topple off the ladder

In the client’s chair - Walking alone

On Tuesday my friend Rachel sent me a text; she was in need of urgent advice. She had had three sessions of therapy following an initial assessment. She had left the last session early, convinced that the therapist was not for her.

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Editorial

I was staggered when I realised recently that this is my 100th issue of Therapy Today. Some of the debates that were raging a decade ago, are still with us. For example, one of my first tasks when I began working for the journal was to write an article (a rather naïve one at that) about how regulation was sure to be in place by 2003 – at the very latest!

We have covered many topics in the past 100 issues but have not to my knowledge touched on the subject of sadomasochism. One study has reported that 14 per cent of men and 11 per cent of women have personal experience of sadomasochistic sex so the chances of someone walking into our consulting room who identifies as kinky are quite high.

Unless we have personal experience of the world of kink, we are unlikely to be confident to work with a client who discloses in therapy that they are exploring this aspect of their sexuality. Su Connan argues that offering therapy to those who identify as kinky raises questions for the therapeutic community such as those that have been raised by the gay community around the need for awareness, training, ethical practice and supervision. Clients need therapists who are not going to be shocked or make them feel judged or indeed who will categorise them as pathological or sexually deviant and in need of treatment and cure. In order to be able to offer ethical therapy to these clients, Su argues, practitioners need to deepen their own knowledge and understanding of the kink experience and of the meanings that sadomasochistic sex has for those who incorporate it into their lives.

The hunt is on for some new columnists as we say goodbye in this issue to our client Emma Munro who has shared her therapy journey with us for the last 18 months, and Martin Halifax who has reached the end of his counselling and psychotherapy diploma. If you know people who might fill either of these roles, please get in touch. [Please note, we have now filled these vacancies.]


STOP PRESS: BACP has launched 'It's good to talk' a new website for the public, to explain how counselling and psychotherapy can be of benefit.


Sarah Browne Editor