The prospect of seeing a therapist might not sound appealing. Infact when someone tells you to see a therapist you may feel upset in more ways than one. Even the thought of it might irritate you for no particular reason. Even when you decide to take the big step and see a therapist you may feel that you’re wasting your time. You may not really be comfortable telling a stranger your problem and expecting them to fix it. While you may feel that way, seeing a therapist isn’t the worse thing in the way. A therapist can help you In many ways even though you may not see it or notice it at first.
When consulting a therapist there are some things you might unknowingly say that might make your reasons for seeing a therapist or even your progress seems futile. Such statements lock you and your therapist in a stalemate. So if you’re visiting a therapist first time or if you’ve been seeing one but you are concerned about what not to say. No need to stress further. This article highlights what you may have been saying to your therapist that you should not be saying.
What not to say to your therapist
Can you tell me what I should do strange right, what’s so wrong about this statement? Well, while you might see nothing wrong in this statement this isn’t something you should be saying to your therapist. Therapy is supposed to be empowering, the job of a therapist is to help you find yourself by yourself through self-realization. Saying things like what should I do, it’s pointless or therapy doesn’t really work for me can be really disastrous. There should be trust between you and your therapist. No matter what you’ve gone through traumas, hardships, losses, etc you should never lose hope. You need to believe that you can achieve it and be successful no matter how broken you feel inside. And the fact you’re are sitting in that chair talking about your problems proves it.
I know what you are trying to do
Well, this might be something you may say because you feel the therapist is trying to trick you into doing what they want. Therapy isn’t like that, your therapist can’t just take an Idea and implant it in your brain. It’s all about making the necessary, meaningful, and important change to your life. For therapy to work, you have to accept the change and realize the change is good for you. And your therapist would you understand this change and accept it.
Everything worked out because of you.
While you may feel thankful to your therapist as you start improving, saying things like I completely agree with you or even praising the therapist belittle the therapy experience.
Therapy is supposed to be a safe space for honesty, trust, and authenticity. A therapist is meant to help you, so communication is important. So when you feel your therapist needs to do more or even better, then speak up. You don’t need to shower the therapist with false praises. The therapist would help you in more ways than one and you’ll be happy you consulted one when you did